Friday, October 17, 2014

Failure, then after what?

I remember that I failed last year and I wasn't able to undergo internship. Some of my classmates, for example when they failed, also felt the same way - sadness, anxiety and grief. It's common for people to cry. But what's after crying? Here's are some a handful of what-they-do after they failed and what-you-can-do if you fail.



1. Undergo the Kuby's Five Stages of Overcoming Grief
This can be applied to this situation. Just imagine...
Anger: Becoming angry at the instructors because they failed you. Anger is normal, if in moderation. It's healthy if you don't hurt other people.
Denial: You don't accept that you failed. Hence, you asked for recomputation.
Bargaining: You said to yourself, "if only I didn't sleep that night," or "if only I passed that exam." And the list goes on.
Depression: There you go crying, and showers of hug may come to you.
Acceptance: The final stage where you accept it. You have an idea that, "this is not yet my time", "I can do better next time" or "God has a reason why He let me failed"

2. Ungroup/unfriend in FB or Twitter those who passed
Honestly, this is childish so don't do this. This doesn't help anyway. The better way is detach yourself from Facebook and Twitter for a some time so that you may avoid their posts like, "Yehey! I passed". That doesn't help, it makes you feel more sad.

3. Going to the karaoke and drink!
Some of my peers actually did this. They go to this place, drink gallons of beer and sing like there's no tomorrow. The obvious reason is that they want to release their "maoy" or sadness over the result. But the deeper reason is that they need companionship.

4. Punch the wall
While it is painful, punching the wall will let you release that energy.

5. Talk to your parents or anyone
Their words of wisdom can be helpful. This eases your sadness.

6. Distract yourself Distract yourself from thinking about that failure is a big help. Do productive things like business or do extraordinary things like shaving your fair.

Remember that failure is not the opposite of success. In fact, failure is part of success. It's not the end of all things, but think of it as the beginning of new things.

2 comments:

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